The typical widow wonders, “Can I find love again?” When you lose your spouse you often re-examine what love really is. You may feel unlovable and even be afraid that you will never be in love again. This fear can be overwhelming when you really want to be in a relationship again. As women we center our love on another person rather than on ourselves. When death comes, the center of our love is lost, adding to the trauma of their death. An important element in the rebuilding of your life is the process of learning to love yourself first. As you love yourself you will attract others to you. If you don’t love yourself, how can you expect anybody else to love you? Have faith in yourself because you are strong and loveable just as you are – this I know!