Widows have to work to get re-balanced after the death of their loved ones and one of the best things is to talk more positively to ourselves. Words are powerful and they can make us feel worse or they can have a less negative affect if we just modify them a bit.
Try these simple word changes and see how they can transform a negative into a more neutral and therefore more controlled situation:
Negative Emotion To More Neutral
angry to disenchanted
afraid to uncomfortable
anxious to concerned
depressed to on the road to recovery
disappointed to delayed
disgusted to surprised
failure to learning
frustrated to challenged
humiliated to uncomfortable
hurt to bothered
I could go on and on, but by now you should see how powerful words can be and how there will be a huge effect on your emotional energy by only slightly changing them.
Yesterday I went to a neighbor’s retirement party. The aloneness of being a single person really hit home. Even though Paul and I didn’t attend many things as a couple, I knew that he’d be there when I got home waiting to hear everything that went on. I went home early to my empty house. A wave of grief hit and I didn’t want people to see me hurting. I’m slowing working my way through it.