Include your children when you talk about Christmas without their father. It is a time of insecurity and they need to feel security by letting them know in advance how Christmas is going to be celebrated.
Ask the children what they want to do and also what they don’t want. It is best to know ahead of time what is going to happen rather than approach the day without any plans.
Get their input about an appropriate gift or donation in memory of their father.
Put a new decoration on the tree in memory of their father and let them choose it.
If you want to burn a special memory candle – let them buy it.
Christmas can be overwhelming and they may need a break from family so if they want to visit their friends, let them.
Encourage children to talk about their father. Although it can be painful, it will help them to share memories and express their feelings.