Here is a good article written by Joan Wickerham.
Grief is a lot weirder than we think. It doesn’t follow a logical course or conform to any predictable timetable. Yet we persist in making comments about how other people are doing it. And worse, we are constantly, secretly convinced that because our own grief doesn’t proceed according to our expectations, we must be doing it wrong.
Read the full article by Joan at: https://www.bostonglobe.com/opinion/2013/02/08/grief-doesn-have-timeline/nNmP2Vl8aXyFOuPh2hAqPP/story.html