This is where fear and doubt join forces and you start painting vivid negative pictures in your mind. Most of the things you fear will never happen but it still has the power to rob you of your confidence.
Don’t allow fear and uncertainty to take away your power. Remember, it’s more mentally tiring to think about what has to be done and all the things that could go wrong, than it is to just do it.
Widows with low confidence may sabotage the positive things that could happen in their lives. Because they think they don’t deserve to be happy they come up with all sorts of excuses to avoid taking that first positive step to a new future.
Sometimes they may be moving forward and be doing well and suddenly they mess up for no apparent reason. If this is something you do, stop and quiet your mind before you do anything else. It’s hard to get rebalanced on your own when you have been part of a couple for years.
You will make mistakes along the way but don’t let your confidence slip because of these mistakes. Consider it part of your journey – after all there is no training for grief and you will have to grow as you learn and more forward. Make some small goals to work towards and as you achieve them you will build up your confidence.