“Despair” means loss of hope and it’s normal to want to rush in to help. But promising things that cannot be delivered will make you appear less reliable and trusting and when they need you even more they will not seek you out.
- Never promise anything you can’t deliver.
- Acknowledge how they feel by allowing them to talk and just being there to listen.
- Give them realistic hope and something to look forward that has a good chance of success.
- Tell them that no matter how rough things get, you will be there for them.
The fear of being abandoned in your grief is a big fear with most widows. I hope that you’ll promise to stay by them is vital and realistic. It is so much easier to weather the patches of despair when you do it with others.