I am proof that your life can change in an instant. Just like every other widow out there knows – life is never the same the moment your husband dies. I believe a piece of each of us goes with our loved ones when they leave us.
I took a leap of faith and wrote a book, became a speaker and certified Grief Recovery Specialist as well as a Certified Law of Attraction Facilitator. But the crux of my journey lies in the fact that I did one simple thing above all else – I made a choice to take control of my wellbeing and lit a fire within me.
When you lose a loved one your life can burn out and different states of disease will move in. Anxiety, depression, eating disorders and high blood pressure are just a few of the unwelcomed guests that come when we stop living and start dying.
You need to create a fire that will extinguish your pain and bring you out of that darkness where you are completely alone. You need to dig deep into yourself and resolve to build a fire from the ashes. It will start as a slow burn but then it will grow and spread until your true, authentic self is revealed.
It’s not easy and it’s not quick but a contained fire (passion for living) will transmute into something useful, positive and soon you will be saying, “I am more than this grief”. You can use that energy to set a purpose to every aspect of your life.
I am doing it – it’s been almost seven years and lots of trials but it’s a journey that has made me a better person. I’ve found a person who has an inner strength that I didn’t even know was there.
I’m no different from you – your inner strengths are there and if you will just light a fire within you will see them. Make the choice to take control and on that day you will start healing.