There are various forms of grief, and one is called “complicated grief reaction.” Complicated grief reaction consists of unresolved grief in which the grief is prolonged and intense. There is an inability to function normally and participate in the activities of daily living.
10 percent of older bereaved women experience complicated grief reaction. One reason is that they continually face the loss of loved ones and dear friends.
In complicated grief therapy, therapists encouraged patients to talk about the deceased and discuss the various memories they had of their loved one. This was associated with also encouraging the individual to participate in various outside activities, thus focusing not only on the past, but also the future.
Treatment is more effective in individuals who have a strong support system, and this includes family and friends. Unfortunately, as one gets older, fewer friends are alive to help provide such support.
To grieve the loss of someone means that you loved that person and yes, that person is gone, but you did have the wonderful experience of loving and respecting him or her. If people could concentrate on how fortunate they were to have such a person in their life, it could help lessen the amount of grief they undergo.
Getting over grief isn’t easy to accomplish, and many people need the help of health care professionals, including grief counselors. Queen Elizabeth has said, “Grief is the price we pay for love.”