Embracing Your Life

A lot happens after our husband’s death but in the midst of it all we need to hold on to the fact that others don’t control our destiny.  Never, ever let other people determine your future.

There is a dream inside of you and faith will open more doors than anything else.  It’s important that you don’t base your life on the approval of others – know who you are!!

Don’t let people’s discouraging words stop you from dreaming – deciding – doing.  What you know, deep inside of you, needs to be done.  You are good enough, smart enough and able enough, it’s not too late.

Don’t set around being a victim of what you can’t control.  If you’re going to reach your highest potential you have to start dreaming again.  Maybe, today you have lost your joy but you can get back into living.  It’s a new beginning, one you didn’t want or plan for but it’s here, wanted or not.

Embrace your life and surround yourself with people that remind you that you can do whatever you want to and that you are valued.  Have a new sense of purpose – go after life with determination.

We have all been created to love and to be loved.  I’m here to remind you of your value.  Negative thinking needs to be cast aside along with your feelings of being lost.  You have hope when you have faith and believing in a future that you can embrace. 

I know we want our husbands but that is not to be.  That doesn’t mean that we die also – instead we need to live twice as much, love twice as hard and embrace life with twice the passion.

6 Responses

  1. Dawn
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    I lost my husband to cancer one month ago today. I feel like I'm lost. Like a walking zombie. We were together 28 years. He was diagnosed last April and it was incurable. He wanted to survive long enough to see our daughter get married in October, so he decided he would do chemo to maybe help prolong his life. His first chemo almost killed him, but he got a little better and continued. They did a scan and said they didn't see any more cancer. We thought this is a miracle. Her got to walk his daughter down the aisle. Then it was scan time again. The cancer was back and it had doubled and was spreading fast. He lasted four more months. So sick all the time. I took care of him through all this, as I should have, since I'm his wife and I loved him. But every day was misery. I was talking to him telling him how much I loved him and I would be alright. That it's alright to go be with his family that had passed already. I'll never forget a tear rasn down and that was his last breath. But I'm not alright. I thought I was prepared for this and now I find myself just so sad and depressed. I miss him. I miss someone loving me and always having my back. We have children, but they're grown. I'm all alone. I don't want to work, but I do. I don't even want to get out of bed. Please tell me this will get easier. I don't know what to do

  2. Mary Francis
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    I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your husband.  It’s the hardest job in the world to be a care giver to someone we love at the end of their life.  It is normal to feel this bad as grief is messy and has to have it’s time.  But the pain does heal somewhat as life moves forward.  The best thing to do is just keep on going – being as sociable as possible with friends and family helps to keep us balanced.  We need to balance our grief with some healthy living so that the grieve does not overtake us.   Take care of yourself,  Mary Francis

  3. Della
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    My husband of 52 years died o. Sept 7 2015. I still can't believe he is gone. He was diagnosed with MDS a form of Leukemia . With chemo the doctors said his disease would be controlled. It didn't work for him and he died within 6 months. He seemed so fine until the last 2 weeks of his life and then quickly went downhill. Deep down I really didn't believe he would die. Now I am having a very difficult time coming to terms with it all. This disease came out of nowhere. In January he was shovelling snow and we were making plans to take a Florida vacation .On Labour day he died. I cry everyday . I have read many things about grief and go to counselling . Not much has helped.

  4. Mary Francis
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    I’m sorry Della about the loss of your husband.  Fifty two years together is a life time and it will take time for healing.  I had replied to your message earlier but somehow it got taken out of the system and didn’t get to you.  I want you to know that it is normal to cry and grieve as you heal.   You are doing the right thing to get some counselling.  Read up on what you can do for support.  The best thing I found was just simply getting myself out of the house and spending time with the positive people in my life.  Take care of yourself,  Mary Francis

  5. Gloria
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    My husband of 45 years and the love of my life passed away in August. I am trying to get on with my life but feel lost. I have 5 wonderful children but I still feel alone. I moved closer to my children in California. I put our house up for sale. I got a new job this week. I still fell a lone in side. I miss him so much. Tonight I am sad. I am trying to be strong but still it is hard. I have a great family grandkids. I am living with my oldest son and his family, and as son as my house sells I will buy a new home for myself. Maybe I will fill whole some what then?

  6. Mary Francis
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    Hold on tight to family and friends because they help us to know we are stilled loved and matter. Mary Francis

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