What Is a Soul Mate?

It's hard to define what a "soul mate" is because we all have different expectations, but one thing is for sure and that is that we know when we have found one.

A "soul mate" shares a special intimacy with you and they fill your world with their own personality. You share what you've lived and move forward as a team. Often there is a feeling that you are meant to be together and that your destinies are intertwined.

But what happens when death steals away our "soul mate"? Our soul mate was part of our life and helped us grow as a person. That doesn't mean that we stop growing once we are on our own, but their death created a deep loss that is hard to recover from.

Some people believe that there is only one "soul mate" but I think that you can have more than one in a lifetime. However, it's important to understand that relationships need to evolve.

Relationships are a process – where you need to embrace this new love, be willing to work through conflicts and accept that it will never be the same as your first love. How can it be the same – their death has forever changed you? You are not the same person because you have had to grow strong so you could handle your grief.

Don't get hung up with finding a "soul mate" but instead seek to just connect. Share your life with someone who feels familiar and connects with who you are at a core level.

First, you need to find your own path and when you do, you increase your chances of running into someone going in the same direction you are. Don't overthink this – just enjoy the time you share and let it evolve naturally.

2 Responses

  1. Nancy Cota
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    My goodness you just described exactly what I feel and how I think. My husband passed away 1 year ago. We were married 36 years. He was 55 and I am going on 56 now. I have connected with someone and I am enjoying him so much. Its way different than how it was with my husband. He makes me happy, he makes me laugh a lot, he gives me just the right amount of attention. I didn’t think I would ever find anybody who brings me so much happiness. Thanks for the blog. Its very helpful.

  2. Mary Francis
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    Your welcome Nancy

    Thank you for taking the time to comment on the blog. It helps other widows understand that we grieve but then we heal.

    Take care, Mary Francis

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