We have all been there, where we needed the support and comfort of friends. Now it’s time to pass it on to others that are in need. Do you know, that as a widow, you have a special connection with those that have just lost their husbands?
You can relate to their pain, confusion and sense of unbalance like no one else can. Here are three things you can do to help a new widow:
1. Arrange for some comfort food to be delivered. Start a team effort that is on autopilot for a couple of weeks. Set up a schedule to let everyone know what they are to bring, when and details on the delivery.
2. Instead of saying “Call me if I can do anything”, ask “What errands can I do for you today?” Being specific will help them pinpoint what they need.
3. If you’re up late, see if she is online, example Facebook, and ask to chat. Send her a note “Do you want to talk?” She will appreciate knowing that she is not alone and that she has someone that cares.
One of the best ways to heal is to reach out to others in their time of need. As you know most widows will not ask for help and wear a mask to the outside world that says “I’m doing okay”. We know differently because we have been where they are. Be there for them, let them know that they are not alone and that you understand.