Are You Ready to Date?

You are a smart and warm hearted person with lots to give and you are missing the love you used to have. As a widow you know what it’s like to have a life with someone to love and you wonder about dating again.

But years have passed since you last dated and dating isn’t as easy or as comfortable as when you were younger. It’s hard to strike a balance between real love and all the demands of a mature person. How do you know when it’s worth making a sacrifice for love?

We know that there are others out there who don’t have anything more to offer than we do and yet their love life seems to run more smoothly. We shouldn’t beat ourselves up because the path to real love is full of potholes.

The real thing is hard to find but it’s worth striving for, because real love is what living is all about.

Fear of being abandoned. You cut your date short so that you are the one not committing. The problem is that your fear of abandonment could be stopping you from making a good relationship into a great relationship.

Afraid of losing control. You may be looking for a relationship where you control everything but you won’t really learn anything new. Make room for some changes.

Fear of being hurt. I understand the fear when you put yourself out there and there is always the danger of your heart being hurt. But the other side is a lonely life without the hope of finding real love and having someone to share your life with.

Fear of intimacy. Hey, we are all afraid of intimacy – it’s not like we are as young as we used to be. This new person only knows you by what you look like today and there is some serious aging going on. The thing is you put more attention to this than they do. They are just as worried about how you will react to them. After all they aren’t as young as they used to be either.

Don’t settle because of loneliness, age or finances. Wait for that special someone who makes you want
to be a better person. Never take them for granted because true love is priceless.

2 Responses

  1. Bira
    | Reply

    I would like to date, but at 67 it’s a little difficult. I’ve been to a senior centre, but no luck… I’m just looking for companionship….

  2. Bonnie
    | Reply

    Thank you. Laughter and conversation would be so nice

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