Are You Thinking of Dating Again?

Looking for a new relationship while still grieving will just add to your emotional problems. Jumping into a new relationship when we are still raw with grief makes no sense and almost guarantees us to fail.

All relationships are unique and are not replaceable or interchangeable. We are 100% responsible for our reactions to the things other people say or do. You are also responsible to follow your intuition. This is crucial, because if you don’t, then you could fall into or settle for less in a relationship then you deserve and want.

Your intuition gives you early warnings that this man may not be right for you. Don’t overrule your intuition – it could be too high a price to pay to have someone in your life.

It doesn’t mean that you don’t have to compromise or work at the relationship, because of course you do. It relates to that all important sense of whether you belong with that person.

Be proud of yourself for being willing to grow and reach out for love again – if that’s what you want than be open to it. Trust your intuition to know when he is right for you and then create the relationship you’ve dreamed of. Love is a journey that touches our very spirit and we are blessed if we find it again.

Loving someone fills us with joy, pierces our loneliness and brings us true happiness but only if we are ready for it. And that – only you can answer.

2 Responses

  1. Lisa
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    I believe I tried to date too soon, it’s been a year and half since my partner of 30 years and father of my son passed away. I can tell l am not fully healed, every time I meet someone , it has failed miserably. I want to give up on men, for one thing , they have no clue what I am going through and the immense amount of hurt I have been through. One man had the audacity to tell I’m “dwelling on my losses” I kicked him to the curb. I am also finding dating at an older age is harder than I thought ( I am 50) men have baggage, kids, divorce, or they don’t want to ever marry again or are bitter about relationships because of a bad divorce etc, and I find it gets in the way. Also some have health problems and want someone to take care of them, no thank you, I don’t want that, my significant other of 30 years died of diabetic coma and watched him almost die several times before he finally did pass away, it is traumatic for me to even think of going through that again, I don’t why a man would even want to bring up their health matters to me when I have been through that. I am healthy and active and I am finding older men I meet are sedentary and don’t want to do anything active or are set in their ways. I’m just sick of all of it, I would give anything to have my partner back, he wasn’t perfect by any means but perfect for me.

  2. Mary Francis
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    Dear Lisa – As widows we carry our emotional baggage into a new relationship and that can cause our new relationship to crash before it’s even gotten off the ground. It’s so important to take the time to heal as an individual before devoting yourself to being part of another couple. Then you’ll have the freedom to enjoy a romantic partner, one that you will grow with or be happy as a confident and single lady.

    You are in control, so if your not comfortable than don’t go there. Take care of yourself first. Mary Francis

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