It’s hard when you are grieving to feel uplifted. All we widows want to do is hide our heads under the pillow and be left alone, but I’ve got something a lot better for you than retreating to your bedroom.
It’s a blend of warmth, wonder and compassion that will help you with your journey. When forces beyond our control have ended our lives as we knew them (home, lost loves and our future) we feel apprehension about what is to become of us and we hunger for something uplifting.
We want, no need, a nudge towards a little piece of happiness to open our hearts again – some music, a perfect morning sunrise, time spent with families and friends. It’s that warm feeling that washes over us when we are moved by an act of kindness or by a person of virtue. These are the feels we need and the more we share those positive feelings the stronger they will grow.
Our yen for uplift in times of trouble isn’t just a sentimental reflex, it is part of what makes us essentially human. It’s critical to our health and well-being and luckily, lifting our spirits for the most part, is up to us and within our control.
When we give someone a reassuring smile or sigh in sympathy with another person, it reduces our heart rate to a more peaceful pace. Happiness comes through the relationships created by love, work and “something larger than self”- religion, volunteer or political working for the good of others. That’s the catalyst that helps bond people together and when grieving we need that life line to lift us up.