Some widows think they will be happy when they sell the house, when they get more money or when the kids grow up etc. but happiness isn’t somewhere in your future. Your happiness is in the present – in doing something with your life. It’s not enough to just survive, you need to stand your ground and start to live again.
Don’t just exist, reacting to what others do or say, instead take control of your life. Make future plans and have dreams to work towards. You will discover that there is more to you than you had thought.
The pursuit of my dream to help other widows has taken me out of my comfort zone, elevated my thinking, given me confidence and confirmed my sense of purpose but most of all it gave me something to look forward to.
It’s true what they say, “The greatest value of your dream won’t be what you get from it; it will be who you become by pursuing it.” As widows, you and I will travel the grief journey and hopefully make the world a better place for others.
Optimists think that life is always good and pessimists believe that it’s all bad but the reality is that life is both. Only a widow who accepts and embraces life with all its trials will survive and heal.