Tired of being Tired

Widows – if you feel that your life is small and you have no future, you need to dream more. Nothing will help you break out of your rut faster than a worthwhile dream that you are passionate about.

Make a bucket list of dreams from small to big and then start checking them off as you do them. Start with the dreams that are easy to do and feel how energized and alive you feel as you accomplish them.

I remember sitting in my bedroom tired of being tired. I make up a list of ten things I wanted to do in the next twelve months. It was empowering just to do the list and have a plan, a future.

Six months after Donnie’s death I took a motorcycle course and got my license. I can’t explain how empowered I felt from checking it off my list. It gave me a small taste of living a positive life.

Dreams are vital to our grief journey so take a moment to dream and plan.

3 Responses

  1. Sharon
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    Will try this!

  2. Laurie
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    I’m sorry that you are not going to continue your newsletter : ( But as a widow who always shared her dreams with her husband – and we had so many shared dreams… it has been impossible to imagine anything alone. Everything in life was ‘so much more than imagined’ when shared with my love. He and I also took a motorcycle course and we spent many years touring the US via motorcycle – it was such great fun!! But truly nothing I would ever want to do alone. We traveled all over the US and we always took ‘the road less traveled’! Maybe I just need to realize that my best, most inspired days are behind me – and simply be eternally grateful that the memories I have will keep me company for the rest of my life. And I am eternally grateful.

  3. Mary Francis
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    Dear Laurie. I’m still with you by this blog and my Facebook page. You don’t have to travel this road by yourself. Widows helping widows is a powerful thing and often just what we need. Take care of yourself and know that you are valued. Mary Francis

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