The inability or unwillingness to forgive is one of the most common emotional blocks to healing. What are you holding onto – doctor or hospital error, unfeeling or insensitive remarks, God or the unfairness of it all.
Any resentment of past events limits and restricts your ability to participate fully in life. Successful healing requires completion of your grief rather than retention of any resentment or un-forgiveness. You are the only one who suffers when you don’t forgive.
Forgiveness is the result of giving up the resentment you hold for something they actually did, did not do or you perceived to be hurtful. It doesn’t matter whether they intended to hurt you, what matters is how it affected you emotionally.
What is important now is that our life is limited by any un-forgiveness on our part. Forgiveness is never to be done directly – no one will sit still and be told they are wrong. Forgiveness has nothing to do with the other person, it is only for you, to set you free and they don’t even have to know when you do it.
Say to yourself “I need to forgive you, so I can be free”.