If you cared for your loved one before their death, than all you energy and focus went into that one mission. Your life may have become very isolated from the rest of the world.
When the care giving ended you would think it would be easy to get back in touch but that isn’t always the case. You’re numb with grief and this new found freedom is somewhat scary. It can be hard to adjust to a life that doesn’t have full time demands on your time.
If you are not a caregiver – then who are you? This might be scary but you have to get out and enjoy life. Make a list of all the things you wanted to do when you were a caregiver and then just go for it. Dream big or small it doesn’t matter as long as you take it one step at a time towards something just for you.
Don’t get back into “care giving” by looking after someone else that is in need. It may feed your emotional need to be needed but you may just be trying to avoid that outside scary life of being single.