Every widow is unique and responds to grief and healing at her own pace. It is essential never to compare one widow to another. Each and every widow has her own individual beliefs about how to deal with her feelings of loss.
Some widows need to talk about “What Happened” almost immediately following the loss. It pre-occupies them, just as a person may be pre-occupied with an accident or some other tragedy.
As a widow, if you’re living alone you must make use of your social skills because absolute loneliness is just too hard to bear. Work at gradually getting out and meeting new people by traveling, donating your time or getting a part time job.
No one can take risks for us, face our grief for us or give us self-esteem. No one can spare us from the journey of grief to healing. That is simply the way of things, and after a while we learn to appreciate our blessings.
A new widow is immediately plunged into a scary new life. The challenge of going from being part of a couple to being single is daunting.
Sociality believes that grievers want and need to be alone. How many of you remember being told not to bring up the death of your Uncle to your Aunt? Your family hoped to avoid the topic of the loss, in an attempt to protect your Aunt.
But we need to let a widow remember her husband and share her stories when and how she wants. Love and respect her enough to quietly let her talk and just be there for her.