A Widow’s Attitude

Why is it so much easier to be negative than positive? I know that the choice is mine and that the consequences of being negative, is frustration and unhappiness. So the question is “How do I train myself to be more positive and less negative?”

I’m warning you now, even with a commitment, it’s a bumpy road and life will test you to see how serious you are about changing your attitude. But that’s what healing is about – having a positive attitude even when things aren’t going your way.

When we lose someone we love our life changes and it’s hard to be happy and hold unto a positive attitude. It takes time to get our balance back and with it a more happy and positive outlook.

When you have grieved and the time has come for you to heal – by working on your attitude the world around you will also change. All of a sudden the world is a better, kinder and happier place to be.

Here are some tips to help you move forward:

1. Take responsibility for your life because no one else is going to. You and only you can make a conscious decision to have a positive attitude.

2. Have a “I can do this” attitude. In other words commit, really commit to a mental attitude that says: If I get depressed, I will recognize it and do a mental turn about.

3. Put positive thoughts into your mind by reading motivational material. Some of the greats are Napoleon Hill, Norman Vincent Peale, Robert Schuller, Jim Rohn, Zig Ziglar, Earl Nightingale, Jeff Keller, and many more. The more you fill up on positive energy the less room you will have for depression and negative people.

Be careful that you don’t get caught in the dark side of life when you lose someone you love.

3 Responses

  1. Claudia

    I have always been positive, never complained and this has made the difference in my life…Great read. Thank you!

  2. Reeta

    I lost the love of my life after over 40 years of marriage. I was young when I married and he has always been there for me and I for him. We loved each other so much. His was my everything. I have no family to support me. I have always been independent, except for my husband. I kept him alive as long as I could, taking him to Doctors and hospital. But, Cancer finally took him. I think of the things I wanted to say and didn’t because I knew it would hurt him knowing that I was in pain. He was the greatest husband, kind, patient, loving and always looking out for me. I cherished him. We spoiled each other. Now, alone,
    I don’t know how to live without him. I do work. He told me to return to work ASAP. He also had a sense of humor. I don’t know how to live without him. I visit him everyday and talk to him.

  3. Mary Francis

    Dear Reeta. You spent forty years with your loved one so it will take time to get rebalanced. Take your time grieving and healing will come. Mary Francis

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