Why is it so much easier to be negative than positive? I know that the choice is mine and that the consequences of being negative, is frustration and unhappiness. So the question is “How do I train myself to be more positive and less negative?”
I’m warning you now, even with a commitment, it’s a bumpy road and life will test you to see how serious you are about changing your attitude. But that’s what healing is about – having a positive attitude even when things aren’t going your way.
When we lose someone we love our life changes and it’s hard to be happy and hold unto a positive attitude. It takes time to get our balance back and with it a more happy and positive outlook.
When you have grieved and the time has come for you to heal – by working on your attitude the world around you will also change. All of a sudden the world is a better, kinder and happier place to be.
Here are some tips to help you move forward:
1. Take responsibility for your life because no one else is going to. You and only you can make a conscious decision to have a positive attitude.
2. Have a “I can do this” attitude. In other words commit, really commit to a mental attitude that says: If I get depressed, I will recognize it and do a mental turn about.
3. Put positive thoughts into your mind by reading motivational material. Some of the greats are Napoleon Hill, Norman Vincent Peale, Robert Schuller, Jim Rohn, Zig Ziglar, Earl Nightingale, Jeff Keller, and many more. The more you fill up on positive energy the less room you will have for depression and negative people.
Be careful that you don’t get caught in the dark side of life when you lose someone you love.