My husband died at the age of fifty-three and so I became a widow at the age of fifty. Twenty-seven years of marriage and now I'm single, but I don't feel like I'm single. In fact I'm not married, not divorced and really not single – and so I'm a widow. How odd that seems!
It never occurred to me during the years I was putting my life together—family, business, home, and finances—that one day I would have to start all over. Suddenly, I have been given a wide array of new choices—in effect, a second life. I asked myself—Where do I start?
I started by talking to other widows and hearing their journeys of grief and healing. Each story gave me some tip or advice that I was able to use in my personal life.
One thing lead to another and before I knew it I was being asked to speak to organizations and small groups about how life changes when you lose someone you love. I find that my own journey has taken me to areas that I had never considered when I was married. I published a book, did a website, became a speaker/coach and have a monthly newsletter.
Recently I took another step and became a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist and I now teach the 10 week Grief Recovery Outreach Program
I believe that when men and women are able to think, talk, write and cry about the loss of their loved ones, they will find healing. Healing comes from mutual support, sharing our journeys and understanding our own grief experiences.
In my speaking engagements I provide some advice and just a bit of real life so that you can see that grief has a process. It is different and yet the same if your loss is a parent, spouse, child or a cherished friend. It is important to recognize the uniqueness of your own journey.
One thing for sure, if you open yourself up to the possibilities of life, you just don't know where it can lead you. So, don't be afraid. The worse has already happened – you lost your loved one -so from now on, go after life with all you have. No one knows better then you just how fast life can be gone, so don't hold back.