Mary Francis

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After suddenly becoming a widow I started interviewing other widows and I soon realized that their stories could help others. I started helping widows on their grief journey and it soon became my mission to create the ultimate resource site just for widows.

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What Cancer Cannot Do

Cancer Is Limited – It cannot cripple love It cannot shatter hope It cannot corrode faith It cannot destroy peace It cannot kill friendship It cannot suppress memories It cannot silence courage It cannot invade the soul It cannot steal eternal life It cannot conque the spirit. Author Unknown

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Is Grief a Mental illness?

Recently there has been a major change in how the Psychiatric Association will treat grief. Below are two recent articles on the issue of whether grief is a mental illness or a normal part of life and death.  I’m including the links to the full articles so you can read and make up your own mind … Continue Reading

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Listen With Your Heart

Do you often wish that others would really listen to what you have to say?  Do you find that when they do listen it is only because they knew that their turn to talk was coming? There isn’t really anything you can do about them except for setting an example.  Learn to listen – not … Continue Reading

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Long Term Care

As widows we don’t have the benefit of growing old with someone to support and care for us.  As we age bathing, dressing, shopping, driving, housekeeping etc. may become difficult to do. After the age of sixty-five, we start to feel ourselves aging with all our aches and pains.  Those of us that end up … Continue Reading

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Being In The Moment

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Most widows don’t want to be in the moment because the current moment holds the pain of grief.  They are looking for the future – a future that has softened their grief.  But what they don’t realize is that the true miracle is right here. We think that the future will bring happiness but it … Continue Reading

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Children may not show it, but still need time to grieve

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Article by:  Catherine Johnston And Rebecca Nappi  “Children grieve through short spurts and then may return to a normal activity,” said Deborah Hutton, a supervisor for chaplains with Providence Health & Services in Olympia. When children resume their normal behavior patterns and activities, adults may mistakenly believe that the children are just fine, dismissing children’s need … Continue Reading

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Facebook after Death

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After a person dies, his or her Facebook page remains open until someone closes it.  But without their password it’s very difficult to get it closed. Some widows want to keep their husbands Facebook page open so that people can write on it.  They also like to go back and see past comments that their … Continue Reading

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Stedman Graham and his new book “Identity”

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Stedman was written a book called “Identity” and it’s a great book on taking control of who you are and on how to define your identity and path in life. I strongly recommend his book as it puts the power back into your hands and will help you achieve our goals.

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Life Choices

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I used to feel that there were hundreds of life’s choices but once I thought about it I was surprised at just how few there really are: Family Fun Health Work Life’s Purpose Money Relationships Self-Image Self-Growth Travel Almost all of my decisions will fall within one of these ten groups.  What I soon realized … Continue Reading

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Love and Loss

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The best way to deal with stress is to “feel” it. Many of us think that if we let ourselves experience our feelings, we will shatter. But in my own life and in my time with other widows I have discovered that none of that is true. Our feelings won’t break us and no matter … Continue Reading