Depression And Widows

Widows have to be careful that they don’t slip into depression. It is so easy to let everything go, because our whole life has changed. The symptoms to watch out for are lack of sleep, decreased interest in life, feelings of guilt, no energy, difficulty in focusing and the opposite being over busy to avoid dealing with your emotions. It is natural to have one or more these symptoms when your husband dies but the symptoms should lessen with time and if you can manage to get through it without drugs your long-term quality of life is better.

Try to avoid depression by forcing yourself to get out of the house to interact with others. Exercise, even if its just getting out for a long walk, will help you to heal. Pick a new hobby or interest so that you have something to focus on that is positive and interesting. You can get your balance back by helping others. When you give of yourself it will always come back to bless you.

There is no time frame for grief and it has to take its course. To grieve and heal is a natural process as we slowly get back on our feet. Depression interferes with your healing so please don’t let it creep up on you.

3 Responses

  1. Hollis Ordiway
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    Hey there, this is a great write-up. You get my vote for this and also I’ll bookmark your blog right now.

  2. Judy
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    I am nearing the 2nd year of my husband’s death and I’m feeling anxiety and lack of interest in cleaning the house and doing yardwork. Am I normal or do I need counseling?

    • Mary Francis
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      Hi Judy – First I want to say that I’m sorry about the loss of your husband. Feeling anxiety and lack of interest is a normal part of grieving and can go on for several years. Counseling can help you get rebalanced, not because there is anything wrong with your grieving, but because its a hard journey. Broken hearts take time to heal and sometimes it helps to talk about our feelings. If you have friends or family that you can honestly share your feelings that is sometimes all that is needed. If you need to talk and have no one close then by all means look elsewhere. A lot of churches do “Grief Share” and Hospice does “Grief Recovery Method” so those two programs are also helpful. Getting back some sense of living is hard,so getting a helping hand can be a good idea. Take care, Mary Francis

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