It is often easier to postpone making a decision than to make a decision that you are not sure of.
You can feel overwhelmed after your spouse dies and fear making a decision you will regret. Take three pages and on each page write one of these “Do Now” – “Do Later” – “Do Whenever” on top. List all the decisions you have to make on the page you think it belongs on. Now list all the tasks that are involved in that decision. Make notes about why and who this might also affect.
Use this as a work plan so that you can make an educated decision. As you make a decision cross it off your list and you will feel like you have accomplished something. It will make you feel good about yourself.