Part One – Widows and Self-Care

For the next two weeks I’m going to do a series of articles on self-care just for Widows.

My focus is to help you put your self-care above anything else – to say no when necessary , to choose to spend your time and energy on things that bring you joy and to make decisions on what you want instead of what others expect from you. As women this is a challenging goal but as widows it’s more than a goal, it is a necessary part of your journey.

Self-care may seem selfish and maybe even offensive at first. Yet, as you start to care for yourself in a more positive mindset you will discover that a Divine force will support you and your life will start to lighten up. None of us can travel this grief journey on our own. We need our friends, family and of course all the spiritually help we can get.

When you are committed to taking extremely good care of yourself, you are saying that you have value. I believe that God helps us in spite of our fears and discomfort but only if we are willing to make the choice to honor ourselves. So over the next two weeks let’s shake up our lives and start self-care.

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  1. mary westmoreland
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    My husband and I were less than a month short of being together 19 years when he passed away Monday September 7, 2015. He was 40 years old. I am 46. And I know the grieving process is different for everyone. But, I just don’t feel like I know how to or can go on without him. I just want to be at the cemetary every day. I just don’t know what to do. I feel so completely lost.

    • Mary Francis
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      Mary, I’m so sorry about the death of your husband. He was too young and 46 is way too young to become a widow. It’s a hard journey with lots of ups and downs. Don’t expect too much from yourself as it’s early in your grief journey. It’s normal to be lost and not know where to turn. We don’t get experience or training so it’s a new and hard path. I often think of it being a major car accident when we are knocked off our paved two lane highway into the ditch. As time passes we get out of the ditch but it’s now an old unpaved single lane and harder to travel on.

      Take your time as grief has to be honoured so that you can heal. Reach out to other widows in your community that understand the journey and will be able to offer you the support and understanding you need. Take care of yourself, Mary Francis

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