There is no way around it, grief is messy – we cry, we are angry, we don’t want to socialize and we are quite simply unhappy.
That is grief and it doesn’t fit into a nice, tidy time frame. It doesn’t play fair and it’s not the same for everyone.
So why does society want it wrapped up and dealt with so fast? Is it because grief makes them uncomfortable or because it brings them face to face with just how short and unfair life can be.
It doesn’t matter how others feel about it – grief is messy and that’s the way it is. We shouldn’t try to change a normal reaction to the loss of a loved one into something that is easy and tidy.
Let grief be what it is and let it have it’s time.