I am more aware of time now that I am a widow. Before the days went by, one after another, without me giving a thought to the fact there is an finite amount of time left.
After Donnie died the days were long and the nights were even longer. But as I got my balance I became more conscious and appreciative of every new experience, especially with friends and family.
I try to take in each experience with a positive outlook, even the negative ones because they all help make me a stronger person. I’ve learned that how you spend your time defines who you are and will be in the future.
Don’t let people with negative energy consume your time because their darkness will cast a shadow on your need to be yourself.
Giving myself time to just “be” and not to always “do’ is my hardest challenge.
I know that you can’t give and give to everyone else and not give back to yourself. You will end up having a psychic breakdown or at best you will be less peaceful than if you honored your time.
Protect your time because you don’t want it to just slip away. Remember that you control your thoughts AND your time – we all do.
How do you spend your time? Do you honor it or do you let it drift away?
Cheryl
“Giving myself time to just ‘be’ and not to always ‘do’ is my hardest challenge.”
This is a profound statement. I keep feeling guilty if I haven’t accomplished a significant number of tasks. I don’t want to waste my life, but on the other hand, I am still recovering from the past several years of full-time work and taking care of my husband as cancer and kidney failure and all the treatments sucked all the life out of him. It is hard to watch anyone deteriorate — especially such a big strong guy. I don’t see myself as a victim, and I know that he had the hardest job of all, but it was emotionally draining.
Joan Champion
The grief, sadness, loneliness, guilt, and the chaos of the estate is enough to make one drag out the Exit Bag.