No one is perfect and we are certainly not ourselves when we lose someone we love. When you do make a mistake acknowledge it, but don’t hold onto it for the rest of your life.
If you hurt someone in any way than apologize by acknowledging their feelings. We can ask for their forgiveness but we can’t make others forgive us for the mistakes we made when grieving. If we put ourselves out and yet forgiveness does not come back us, then you just have to let it go.
Also, if the mistake you made hurt yourself than apologize to yourself. Acknowledge that at this time of grieving you’ve been too hard on yourself. Let it go – ask yourself for forgiveness and then move forward.
Sometimes it’s harder to forgive ourselves than to forgive others who have wronged us. But it’s important for your inner peace and tranquility so take out a notebook to write out and answer these questions:
Is my negative self-talk beating me up mentally?
Do I believe that I deserve to be happy?
Am I holding myself back from new relationships?
Am I settling for what I have because I think I’m not worthy?
It’s time to make some changes and a good start is acknowledging the good and bad in your life. Write down a declaration that in this New Year you will make a conscious effort to treat yourself with dignity and practice loving yourself unconditionally.
You are beautiful and deserve a full life. Don’t let grief rob you of a life full of memories and shared time with friends and family. Start treating yourself as if you were the most important person in your life, because you are. Others will pick up on what you believe so put out positive thoughts and forgiveness so you will be open to all that life has to offer.