We widows share our grief journey and support each other, but no one can give us the confidence we need. Confidence has to come from within. Our mental health is directly connected to our happiness and confidence.
Tips for confidence:
• Start looking for good things in other people that you can praise.
• Look for good things in your life you can be truly thankful for.
• Pay three sincere compliments to someone every day.
• Simple formula called “SFF” meaning “Stop Finding Fault”.
Deliberately looking for the good things in others has a miraculous effect on our confidence. It takes our minds off what we don’t have and makes life a little bit brighter. It makes us more tolerant of those that don’t understand our grief and helps us with all sorts of worries, fears and even depression.
We aren’t perfect and neither are our friends or family, but there is good in everyone. We will grow in confidence as we focus on others and give them sincere praise for the specific things they do. I don’t know why it works but praise can act as a wonder drug, not only building up their self-esteem but also releasing positive energy for us.