A widow with a negative attitude thinks “I can’t”. They dwell on problems, find fault with everything and everyone while focusing on what’s missing in their lives. They can only see limitations because their mind is clouded by rejections, disappointments, doubt and fear. I've been there and I know how hard it is to be positive when we are grieving.
On the other hand, a widow with a positive attitude thinks “I can”. They dwell on solutions and look for the good in everyone while counting their blessings. They see possibilities because their mind is clear and open to the wonders of this world. So what is your attitude? I admit that I can be a bit of both! I’m working on my positive attitude because it makes me a nicer person to be around. In fact, I like my own company much more when I’m not being cranky. Why is it so much easier to be negative than positive? I know that the choice is mine and that the consequences of being negative, is frustration and unhappiness. I want to be a brighter and healthier me. So the question is “How do I train myself to be more positive and less negative?”
I’m going to give you some tips but I’m warning you now, even with a commitment, it’s a bumpy road and life will test you to see how serious you are about changing your attitude. But that’s what it’s about – having a positive attitude even when things aren’t going your way. When we lose someone we love our life changes and it’s hard to be happy and hold unto a positive attitude. It takes time to get our balance back and with it a more happy and positive outlook. We will work on this together because the world can use more positive people. When you change your attitude from negative to positive thinking, the world around you will also change. All of a sudden the world is a better, kinder and happier place to be.
Here are some tips for your attitude adjustment:
1. Take responsibility for your life because no one else is going to. You and only you can make a conscious decision to have a positive attitude.
2. Have a “I can do this” attitude. In other words commit, really commit to a mental attitude that says: If I get cranky, I will recognize it and do a mental turn about.
3. Put positive thoughts into your mind by reading motivational material. Some of the greats are Napoleon Hill, Norman Vincent Peale, Robert Schuller, Jim Rohn, Zig Ziglar, Earl Nightingale, Jeff Keller, and many more. The more you fill up on positive energy the less room you will have for negative energy.
Be careful that you don’t get caught in the dark side of life when you lose someone you love.