When Sleep Won’t Come

If there is one problem shared by most widows, it’s that sleep won’t come and the nights are way too lonely and long.

When my husband died I just couldn’t seem to locate the switch that would turn my brain off so I could get a full night’s sleep. I tried blackout curtains, lavender smelling pillows, set bedtimes and no coffee after 3:00 in the afternoon. I also tried meditation and reading only positive material, but no matter what I did, when the sun went down, I was oh so lonely.

I worried about every single aspect of my life and the life of my children. I would lay awake at night mentally replaying the last few hours of Donnie’s life and questioning what if anything I could have done to change things.

Years have come and gone and I’ve learned how to better handle my lonely nights and how to keep my stress controlled so that it’s not controlling my sleep. For some tips and advice, buy Guide # 2 – Stress Is Stealing My Sleep! How do I Get It Back? – A Guide to Manage Stress and Sleep

  1. Deborah Surber
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    It’s been a little over a year now since I lost him. I have yet to be able to sleep in our bedroom, our bed.
    I have an overwhelming sense of being “closed in” and all the memories flood my heart. The
    quiet is so-much more than I can endure. I sleep on the couch with a soft light streaming from the kitchen.
    The TV is on all night with the sound turned down low. This has helped me to feel I’m not alone
    and if I waken which I usually do, it keeps my mind from the instant feelings of isolation. Sometime in the future I know I will be able to go on with life as usual but for now, I take one day at a time and when I find
    something that works for me, I embrace it. Explore what works for you and don’t worry how unusual or
    crazy it may seem. My grandmother use to tell me that everything has a season and “This too shall pass”.
    Until it does… I’ll just keep on doing what works for me no matter what.

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