I don’t know about you but I find it hard to watch couples together.
The young lovers, holding hands and so openly showing their love, make my heart break from memories of my earlier years with my husband. Yes, we used to be like that – how I miss young love!!
The older couples that have spent many years together, comfortable with each other and at ease with the quiet time between conversations. That should be me and Donnie, how unfair life seems and yes I’m jealous!!
I see these couples at restaurants, shopping and out walking. They may be happily married or not, I have no idea, but they have each other. They don’t even have to talk or discuss all details, because they already know each other’s likes and dislikes or when one isn’t feeling well or is unhappy.
Couples know to wait if the other one is late, they can be certain that their partner will get there. They know the rules of when it’s time to leave, watching for the non-verbal cues that the other person has had enough.
Yes, I still get jealous when I see couples doing exactly what Donnie and I used to do. Couples that communicate with just a look or a touch, an understanding and comfort that comes from being together as one.
It’s gotten better over the years, but I still find myself looking at couples with a touch of sadness. Based on your comments, many of you get strength from your religious beliefs. You feel that God has a plan for you and that gives you the strength to carry on. But for those that don’t have that strength, they need to find it from children, family, friends and others that are widowed.
In the end, I have found strength working with other widows and writing articles/blogs, while doing workshops. I don’t always know where I’m going but I know I have the inner strength to figure it out. You also have that inner strength, so don’t give up on yourself.