Yes, I dare you to grieve, cry and be sad, because that may be your journey when you lose someone you love.
Don’t rush your grief, and don’t let others rush it either. I’ve had women write me after the loss of their spouse and it’s only been one or two months, and they are already seeking professional help because they can’t stop crying, they are sad and don’t want to get out of bed.
Yes, so what’s wrong with that? You’re grieving and if that’s how your body wants to heal it’s broken heart, then let it. Now if it’s been a year or more, than you may need some help understanding how to handle your grief and there may be other issues that are highlighted because of your loss.
If you want to go to therapy, join a grief recovery group or church group, then of course you should. But, please understand that they are tools to help you grieve, and there is no magic quick fix for your broken heart. Also, that it is perfectly okay to grieve, cry and be sad, if that is what your mind and body want to do, let it flow.