How do you relate to the most important people in your life? Ask yourself “Do I get what I need from my relationships?” and “Am I investing enough time and effort in my relationships?”
In each of your relationships you are either contributing to it or not. You help or hinder by teaching others how to treat you. If you really want to change your relationships you must first acknowledge that you alone control both your attitude and actions.
You can’t have good, strong relationships until you’re willing to know yourself. Your biggest mistake may be in believing that what others offer is more important than what you give yourself. You are all right just as you are and you don’t need relationships to fill your needs – instead they should be part of your life because of respect and love, not need.
Having said that, there is always something that can be changed, even in our long term relationships, to make them stronger.
Change Your Attitude – If you only talk about the frustrations of the day, there’s a good chance that the relationship will be just a griping session whenever you are together. Instead start a habit of the first five minutes being free of all complaining. Before saying anything else, talk about something positive.
Reassert Your Rights – For your relationship to work you both need to feel valued, appreciated and respected. If that’s not happening then it’s your responsibility to demand that you are treated with respect. If not than this weak relationship may need to be left behind.
Enjoy Your Time With Them – Make an effort to be “in the moment” when you’re with them. Focus on making direct eye contact when talking. The more focused you are, the more you will enjoy each other’s company.