Widows are knocked off balanced when they lose their loved ones, but we must get back into living our life and not just existing.
It helps to make some goals for your new future as a single person. Your goals need to be specific and measurable. Example: Not – I want to lose some weight. Instead – I want to lose 2 pounds per month.
Specific Action Steps to take. Example: Not – I will drink 8 glasses of water. Instead, I will drink 2 glasses of water before each meal and 2 in the evening before 8:00.
Your goals need to be written out. This is where you get the most benefit from keeping a personal journal. It makes your goals more real when you write them down.
You must hold yourself accountable. Set realistic deadlines and then monitor your progress. Make changes to your action steps where necessary.
Surround yourself with positive people. Have people in your life that will encourage you and when possible even help you achieve your goal.
Focus on one goal at a time. Success requires that you concentrate your efforts on the goal that you want the most. After you have achieved that goal move on to the next goal on your list.
Those that stay the course have these four characteristics:
They believe that they are capable of change.
They do not indulge in excuse making.
They don’t just wish for it – they concentrate on results.
They know what motives them.
Any goal worth achieving will have its resistance because it requires change. In order to reach your goal perseverance is the ONLY option. If you think that you can stop when it gets tough then you will. You must be willing to do whatever it takes for as long as it takes, so make your reasons for the goal strong enough to keep you committed.
Success is the result of making and keeping commitments to yourself. It’s just that simple and that important. Grow strong by reaching your goals with the energy and unstoppable commitment that you are capable of.