Holidays can be particularly hard after the death of a loved one so I’m glad you’re reading this article.
I hope it provides grief insight and encouragement so you can be better prepared for the last few days before Christmas.
The holiday season may interrupt your grief process. You may have been going through the motions of day-to-day living, but the holidays change that routine and we come face to face with just how lonely we are.
Often, those grieving feel pressured to be joyous and they don’t want to be “downers’ at the next get together. So, there is a tendency to swallow our feelings and “wear a mask”, acting like everything is okay when it’s not. It can be exhausting as we struggle to grieve openly jurying the holidays.
More than anything we need a chance to talk about our loss, our memories and our love. It’s supportive listening and just being present for a griever is a blessing that is priceless.
Grief is not an affliction, it’s part of our broken heart. It’s important to validate our feelings and it’s going to take some time, but family and friends need to be there for you as you find your way.
If this is your first holiday season, hold on, your getting there and it will soon be over. Life is different, especially after a deep loss, but be reassured that life can have be joyful again.