Widows Often Get Stuck

Maybe you were an assertive woman, but widowhood has stopped you in your tracks.  You now have to weigh the price of being stuck and decide whether it’s worth it.  Going through life motivated only by your grief, will get you no where.  It’s normal to grieve and grief has to have its time, but when you’re ready please be open to new experiences.

Are you resisting promising ideas and opportunities because your stuck?

Widows don’t sleep well, don’t eat right and often carry tension in their bodies all the time.  If you’re feeling, burdened by endless stress, your body is telling you something.  It’s time to start listening.

A comfort zone is actually a stagnation zone:  you’re stuck because the scariest risk is taking that first step and admitting that what you have isn’t what you want.

It may be time to quit pretending that what you have is okay and that your okay.  We have the ability to create a new life and yet we often neglect that aspect of ourselves because it’s so difficult to quantify or even describe. Your life has a void and its time to make a change from the inside out.

When widows look at their own priorities and where they spend their time, they are usually way down on the list.  You don’t want to run out of time before getting around to the simple things you want to do.  Start small by just getting out of the house and trying something new, meeting new people and trying new things.

it’s time to make an effort to get out of your comfort zone. If not now, when?

7 Responses

  1. Deborah Surber
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    How well you seem to know me! I have been telling myself that my life is okay while I’m swallowed up in my comfort zone. It’s not a bad place, just a lonely one. The isolation does bring me peace and serves as a refuge from the stress of the world. I don’t however, want to get stuck here! I know I have to open up some doors, step out and take risks. I’m in the thinking process about this, building up my courage. Those that know me, say what a “Strong Woman” I am. They have no idea!

    • Mary Francis
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      Hi Deborah – widows know and understand like no one else can. Let your broken heart heal and don’t hide your pain. Take care, Mary Francis

  2. Joann
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    That is very good advise. I am starting to be comfortable to venture out further. Starting small is good, but also good to continue.

  3. Patty
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    I’m the opposite. I lost my husband a year ago January. Still can’t believe it sometimes.
    My house is up for sale but things aren’t moving fast enough for me. I’d ont want to be inHouston anymore and I don’t want to be reminded of my loss with every person in the neighborhood. So many memories of him in town . I am haunted and need a fresh start.

    • Mary Francis
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      I’m sorry Patty and I hope you find some peace in a new home. I moved into a new house a few months after Donnie’s death. It helped a little but the memories came with me and so did my grief. Mary Francis

  4. Sherie silverman
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    I am in a stAte of recovery. I lost my husband 5 months ago yesterday. Ive been enjoying my Son and 2 grands. I went on a girls trip and I’m woa different work schedule. So I have good and bad moments so I endure and continue to the next time.

  5. Valeria
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    It’s a long hard road and only you can do it. It seems that all your friends are busy in their settled life and I know how precious those moments are. I say cherish them and go to my quiet place where my heart reconciles my memories I lone for my husband, yet I understand he’s not able to hold me or take away my pain. I must settle myself because it’s a journey mines alone. But each day strength and courage are waiting and I embrace them. One day I will be settled again and I hold on to that day tears and all.

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