Are You Trying To Fix Yourself?

What if you stopped trying to fix yourself and just let your deepest self emerge?  Decide what you want to change, than draw a time line to get it done.

Break down the process into steps that will allow you to integrate what you learn as you move forward.  It’s quite possible to leave your home for a walk in the early morning air and return a different person – refreshed and renewed.

Do you have people in your life that are always negative?  Always ready to find fault and bad mouth everyone that crosses their path?  The question is what to do with them at your next family get together.

There is a technique called “Do Not Respond” – don’t answer, give a head nod or in anyway get drawn into their  negative talk.  For more out-of-control situations, pretend not to hear, excuse yourself and walk away.

Another year, another chance to ask yourself if you’re really where you want to be.

Please take this opportunity to view the sample pages or download my free guide on “Healthy Relationships”  .


4 Responses

  1. Linda A Holmes-Bailey
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    I am so tired of everyone telling me it is going to be ok…It is not….I still can’t believe he doesn’t exist anymore….oh yeah everyone says yes he is… your heart….it is not the same. The lonely house, the lonely bed…no it is not the same….

    • Mary Francis
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      I agree Linda it is not the same and will never be the same again. In fact, how could it when your loved one is gone.

      You are right to accept that your life is forever changed because it leaves you open to creating a new life for yourself. But first let yourself grieve and let your broken heart have the time it needs to heal. Take care of yourself, Mary Francis

  2. Debbie
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    This transition period is very difficult. Often only someone in a similar experience can be a valued support of encouragement and that too can become annoying because we all grieve differently to me. I accept all the condolences and goodwill that comes my way, but the truth is I find solace and comfort with widows that loved their mates and embrace their marriages of love. I take comfort that my husband’s love surrounds me and yes his physical body is no more but his spirit lives on and I certainly feel his presents and that wherever he is one day I’ll see him again. My love for him will always be and I can’t deny evidence of his spirit and God willingness to allow me to have those opportunities other wise life remains intangible and confused in my world. I feel I’m growing. Learning still and being objective like letting the wind blow. Sometimes its healing and sometimes its tears.

  3. maria elena gonzales
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    I am just trying to come to terms with this void..I have been reading the bible..I started a share grief class, I pllan to go to a bible study group and pray that my feelings of death within myself comes back to life so I can start a new phase in my life. My children help me alot, monetary way, but I do not have them present like I would like too. I have 2 sons and a daughter but I feel the distance. I have 2 daughter in laws that have left my side..I blame myself because I am very hard and say what I see. I raised my children after my divorce from their father. I became a father and mother to my children and hard on being educated. My daughter took it more harder than the boys so she push herself out of my life. She now i talking to me due to she is now a mother of 3 young boys, but I can feel her distant still. I really don’t have one to talk too in the family except my sister and mom..I’ve asked for forgiviness but I don’t think my DIL will accept me. I just need to talk. I pray that the grief share class and the bible study class will help me. Thank you

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