What Are You Most Proud Of?

I know it’s hard to find your place in this world after you’ve lost a loved one. Grief makes us unbalanced and unsure of ourselves.
You need to embrace “You”, with all the attitudes, intensities and characteristics that make you a unique person. Remember that there is no right or wrong – there is just “You”. Therefore, don’t focus on “right”, but instead look for what works for you.

Whatever style works for you is acceptable, claim who you are, immerse yourself in it and give yourself permission to shake things up. Don’t deny or ignore mistakes made – after all if you are making changes, the chances are you haven’t made your last mistake yet.

You’re creating a new future, a fresh start and April is just the month to do it. Learn from the behaviors and attitudes of successful people. Watch, listen and observe for tools that you can incorporate into your personal life as a griever who is healing.

You’re not trying to be someone else, but rather letting their successful behavior help you grow to be all that you can be. It’s up to you to teach yourself what no one ever taught you about living a full and happy life after the loss of a loved one.

You must live with yourself every day. Do you like the person you see in the mirror? Are you allowing negative feelings, guilt or anger overtake what is right for you?

Make a list of the characteristics, qualities and achievements that give you pride in who you are. I have achieved…. – I treat others with ….. – My family and friends would say that I’m……

Keep going and acknowledge all the good traits you have. You are amazing! Take pride in what you have accomplished, your values and the family and friends that love you.

2 Responses

  1. Denise Mixon
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    This helped me a lot my husband passed away a year ago and some of the things you’ve been saying about time has been told to me it’s time to move on it’s time for you to heal your husband wouldn’t want you to cry like this or being this state of mind I don’t know the wrong or right reasons a way to be I’m just trying to get through it so thank you thank you it’s good to hear that someone else that’s going through what I’m trying to get through

    • Mary Francis
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      Hi Denise. You are going to be okay and you have an inner strength that you are just becoming aware of. Take care of yourself. Mary Francis

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