If You Have No Peace

If you have no peace, nothing is right and life is unsettled.  Watch the animals, when nothing works for them, they curl up or stretch out and just surrender to the moment.

Most widows, on the other hand, rest in a state of anxiety, guilt or unease.  This stops them from receiving the benefit of rest, which is to restore and heal.

  1.  Even grief, when accepted fearlessly, is restorative as we heal.  So rest when you need it, but really rest in mind and body.
  2.  Focus quietly on your loss, don’t avoid or cover up your feelings.
  3.  Now think the word “relax”. – Repeat 5x
  4.  When you have had a minute to relax – think the word “rest”.
  5.  Say it to your broken heart.  Actual say to yourself, “I’m resting my broken heart.”

It helps if you do this a few times daily before it kicks in.  The more you practice the simple intention to rest, the easier it will become for you to find peace in doing nothing, so that your body and heart can start to heal.

4 Responses

  1. Sherry
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    I am only pushing 5 months for the loss of my love, but I just cant stop replaying in my mind his last day and hours and minutes. I keep replaying sitting in his icu room, holding his hand and telling him it is ok to go, it is ok to rest and that I love him. I then keep replaying when the nurse told me that he was gone. She also told me that he made the decision for me and I wouldn’t have to choose shutting down his machine. I wake myself crying sometimes because this is just playing over and over and I just cant put my mind at ease.

    • Mary Francis
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      Hi Sherry – It’s hard when our last memories are so negative. Try looking over your pictures and take time with each picture to go over, in your mind, the happy events that made that picture special to you. Focusing on your happy memories will help break the hold that this one bad memory has on you.
      Every time your mind starts to go back to his last day say to yourself “No, I’m not going there. Instead I’m going to remember all the details about …” and keep doing this for as long as it takes to create a new pattern of thought. Take care, Mary Francis

  2. Tamee
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    I lost my soulmate husband today…he was only 58 and Iam 50. Iam numb. He collapsed in the garage and I couldn’t roll him over to give him CPR. It has been horrific, but family and friends and our Heavenly Father have rallied to be a strong support. I feel lost…completely.

    • Mary Francis
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      Dear Tamee. I was also fifty when Donnie died suddenly. It is a horrible experience and is imprinted in our minds. I was numb for the first year and really felt the loss in my second year but everyone responds in their own way. Just hang onto family and friends as it’s a difficult journey to travel without support. Take care, Mary Francis

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