First, willpower is definitely overrated and it’s a myth that you just need a little more willpower and you can do anything. Not only is it overrated, it can lead to great disappointments because willpower is fueled by our emotions. As widows we are emotionally all over the map and that makes “willpower” even more unstable in our lives.
Think about it, we start out strong, committed and we are highly motivated, all because we are emotionally invested. But emotions change and tend to fade along with our energy.
Sure willpower has it’s purpose, as it helps to get us started, but long term change requires good solid planning and habits to get us out of bed and focused on that desired goal.
Widows need to focus on only those things that they can control, and not be drawn into pursuing things that are unattainable. Forget “someday” – today is the day to setup a time line for achieving your goal, record it and schedule a completion date.
The second you start pursuing your goal in earnest, you’re in control again – don’t wait another day to start your healing journey.
As widows we often feel out of control. Our husbands are no longer with us and we need something to care about – something to help our broken hearts heal. That will only happen if we step up and take control of something, anything, that will give us some joy and happiness. You don’t need willpower, you just need some solid plans and habits to support them.