Take Time to Play

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No matter how much you are grieving, it is necessary from time to time to get away from your pain. This may mean going on a day trip or an extended vacation of several weeks or even lunch with a friend.

Perhaps, for some widows, it means staying right in your area but taking time away from your routine to just get out and see what’s around you. It can mean a walk in a park, visiting a beach or doing a walking path in the woods. Believe it or not, doing this can be the best strategy for healing your broken heart. Removing yourself from daily routines can help clear your mind and opens you to new ideas and possibilities.

Simply being in an unfamiliar location causes us to think and act differently. It takes us out of our routines, moves us away from our comfort zone and literally forces us to enjoy new and exciting sights.

Take time to play, even if it is by yourself. Not only will you be more relaxed, you will surely gain renewed enthusiasm for your life. Yes you need to grieve, but you have a life and when you are ready you will need to move forward by taking time to play.

4 Responses

  1. Sherry
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    As I am nearing his 8th month I am slowly coming together with going to different places that we did not go to together. I have eaten at different places just to try to open up my new chapter in life. Of course I am still often times going where we have gone, but I have told myself it is time to “broaden my horizon”. I haven even gone to a simple place such as the book store as we did not go there together. It is hard, but something I realize that must be done. I know he wouldn’t want me to go on with life crying and not living at all. Just want to know what to tell the person that continues to tell me that it is a part of life. A person who thinks that this is the answer to overcoming this nightmare.

    • Mary Francis
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      Dear Sherry – tell them there is no “answer” to grief and all we can do is take one step at a time, and sometimes even two steps back because it’s not an easy journey. You are doing great so don’t worry about what other people think. Go at your own pace. Mary Francis

  2. Valeria
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    This month is the 1st year anniversary of that horrible day that led to the ER visit … that led to my husband’s physical death December 14th, 2018.

    It is difficult.

    But, I have spread my wings since march 2019, and have learned to go to places we used to go – and to new places we have never gone together.

    I revisit {our} places, because I don;t want to forget those memories; and I must come to terms with being comfortable in them: they are unavoidable, as they are local, and I do not want to relocate.

    I go to new places because I like adventure … and Bob would want me to get on with living until I join him in that celestial city beyond the clouds; later on.

    But, no matter how busy I keep myself – or how often I get out of the house – or how many times I engage in solo activities … I STILL COME BACK TO A HOME HE NO LONGER LIVES IN: He will never walk through that door with me; he will never inhabit any of the rooms of our home, or our bed again.

    THAT I cannot escape/change/or manipulate.

    People telling e to do what I am already DOING is not helpful.

    And it changes nothing.

    At some point, I pray, that I can live fully … without being dragged BACK to December 14th, 2018.

    • Mary Francis
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      Dear Valeria – One step at a time, and sometimes two steps back. If that’s the best we can do while grieving, that’s okay.
      Take care, Mary Francis

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