I hope you can find the healing power in grieving. If you hold back on the emotions – if you don’t allow yourself to go all the way through them – you will never get to heal because you’re too busy being afraid.
You’re afraid of the pain, you’re afraid of the grief. You’re afraid of the vulnerability that love brings. But by throwing yourself into these emotions, you experience them fully and completely. You know what pain is. You know what love is. You know what grief is. And only then can you say “All right. I have experienced grief and now I need to move from it and start to heal”.
Same for loneliness: experience it fully, let the tears flow, feel the deep ache of being alone. But eventually be able to say, “All right. I know loneliness, but now I’m going to put that loneliness aside and open myself to the other emotions in the world and I’m going to experience them to the fullest”.
As long as we can love each other, and remember the feelings of love we had, we can live. All the love we created is still there. All the memories are still there. We live on in the hearts of everyone we touched when we lived.
The death of our loved one ended their life, but the memories and love of the relationship will never end.