This is one of the toughest decisions a sick widow may be forced to make. Your decision should be timely, other wise you may wait until you no longer have the capacity to choose for yourself and others will be making the decision for you. You know better then anyone how hard it is to be living alone while needing help to get around, make meals and even to get dressed. But that doesn’t mean you have to move, because there is always home care to help you get back on your feet.
If you want to maintain your independence for as long as possible than you need to stay in control of your fate.
Most of us will work to simplify our living space and some will even choose to downsize. One of the big benefits of downsizing is that it increases your odds of being able to live in a space of your own choosing. The goal after all is to look after yourself without needing our children to look after us. Don’t wait until your too ill to make your own decisions.
One thing for sure is that if you want to age successfully you need to live in a place with lots of stimulation. As long as you are healthy enough to live on your own, sitting all day watching T.V. should not be an option.
We all need some social engagement because the lack of intellectual stimulation can leave you feeling empty and sick.
Here is a check list to consider:
- Do you have contact with younger people?
- Access to close medical services?
- Independent travel as in public transport?
- Places to exercise or get outside?
- Chances to volunteer?
- Public safety?
- Educational activities?
- A sunny and airy place to live?
- Is there available home care in your area?