I’ve come to understand that my inner, widow voice, is trustworthy. I just needed to quiet myself down so I could hear it.
I’ve sometimes responded to that inner voice by ignoring it or hiding from it, and I don’t think I’m alone. Our lives speak through our actions and reactions, our instincts and feelings more than though our spoken words. If we can learn to listen to our inner voice, we will receive the guidance we need to live a more authentic life.
“What do I want?” and “Who am I?” are two questions that need to be answered.
I knew that I needed something I did not have after Donnie died, but my grieving instinct was to dismiss my feelings. Like many widows, I recognized everyone else’s needs but failed to recognize my own.
I started seeking the advise of other widows and that lead to me writing the book “The Sisterhood of Widows”. I learned to listen to my inner voice by first seeking to heal my own broken heart. I felt excited again and because so few things made me excited, I knew I was onto something. And so my new journey began.
In the early years of grieving I would sit on the couch wondering why I couldn’t get my joy back. I endured this confusion for years before I listened to my inner voice, that told me to overcome my fears and take one step towards my passion of helping other widows.
I needed to get my act together. No one else could find my passion and joy for me. It was up to me to seek out proof that I was smart enough to do anything I wanted to do. I’m here on this earth to create my own journey and so are you!