Identify Your Payoffs

No one continues to do something that will only give them negative, unwanted results.

If you continue to behave in a certain way, or make a certain set of choices, you do so because at some level, whether you realize it or not, you are getting results your used to.  They may not be in your best interest, but at some level you must want them or you won’t continue doing them.

It is critically important that you uncover the pay offs that lead you to self-destructive choices.

Widows often resist change.  Whether for reasons of fear, the sense of losing control or something else – staying the same may give you a sense of security.  As a result, your aversion to risk may stop you from making the life changes you need and want.

You need to be truthful about what isn’t working in your life.  Until you figure out where you are, you won’t be able to make chooses for where you want to be.  Bottom line – you can’t change what you don’t acknowledge.

No more excuses:

  • Am I simply not requiring enough of myself?
  • Am I scared?
  • Do I have no goals?
  • Am I just going through the motions, day after day?
  • Do I make promises to myself, that I don’t keep?
  • Who am I spending time with?
  • How do I spend my day?
  • Do I feel valued and respected?
  • Am I at peace?

No matter what’s going on, no matter what’s wrong, your life is not worthless.  We all act as though we have all the time in the world – we don’t.  Wouldn’t it be tragic if you ran out of time before you stopped making excuses?

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