Frequently, problems begin when a widow believes that others should just know what she wants.
Often others don’t know what you want because you have not told them. Widows often hope that their family and friends will just figure it out, but a widow would be a lot happier if she would speak up and tell them exactly what she wants or needs.
The only chance you have of getting what you want is to tell the important people in your life what you want. Yes, this is called communication, but it’s not as simple as it seems.
It’s hard to speak up if you think you will be criticized for your grief, but you have to walk through that fear. As you learn to speak up, always remember that to get along with others, don’t criticize them. It’s easy to criticize others’ faults and short comings but that diverts you from seeing your own shortcomings.
The solution to your problems are not found outside of yourself – you have the solution within you. When you think about how you would like your life to be, but do nothing to get it, you make yourself weaker.
You may want to change overnight, but you probably won’t. The faster you get rid of that false hope, the happier you will be. Most successful people change one step at a time and never give up.
Pick one small action you can take towards speaking up for yourself. If you do this one thing, you will move closer to being the kind of widow who has open communications with her family and friends.
Remember, if you want to be happier you have to speak up.