A Widow’s Survival Checklist

As a widow you need to find someone “safe” to talk to.  You are vulnerable and need to take care of yourself physically, emotionally, and spiritually.  No one will care for your well-being as much as you, so please look after yourself.

  1. Try to keep comfortably busy, and stick to some kind of routine.


  1. Seek out those who will help you come to grips with your new reality.


  1. Allow yourself to grieve and cry without guilt.


  1. Say “no” and stay away from any big commitments. You have enough stress right now.


  1. Survive – Really, I mean it! You matter and you are important so don’t give up.


  1. Look after your body, it’s the only one you have. Embrace a healthy diet and although I know sleep is nearly impossible, but you must give it your best effort.  Get a free copy of my Guide – Stress Is Stealing My Sleep.  https://sisterhoodofwidows.com/a-guide-to-manage-stress-and-sleep/

A Guide to Manage Stress and Sleep A guide for widows.

The reason we may not confront our problems is that we have not yet learned how to deal with conflicts in a positive way.  We must eventually face the fact that this is our new life.  As hard as that is, we must accept it and move forward.

Get wise counsel while grieving as it can take time to find out what our identity is without our husband by our side.  No longer a wife, but a widow – what does it mean?

3 Responses

  1. I needed your list. It gives me perspective and order.

  2. Stephanie Koonz
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    I find myself in constant conflict because I have a 15 year old daughter and my husband died when I was only 46. This is not the life we had envisioned. I’m unsure how to keep her spirits up and help her heal while finding peace for myself as well.

    • Mary Francis
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      Hi Stephanie. Don’t hide your grief from her as it helps her understand that grief is part of life. Talk about her Dad and share memories. If she can grieve openly it will help her.
      Take care and be safe. Mary Francis

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