Be Gentle With Yourself

If you dwell on all the good things you have to be grateful for, you open yourself to more positive energy.  Find a quiet spot to sit and reflex, making sure to write down your thoughts.

Where do you want to be 5 years from now?  Ask yourself: “What am I overlooking?”

Write down one reason you’re thankful for your closest friend.  What other things do you have to be thankful for?  List ten things – it’s time to turn up the heat on the way you’re thinking about your journey and what steps you can take to be all that you can be.

Whether you’re grieving is softer or still evolving, seize whatever good things you can.  Let it bring you happiness, strengthen you and prepare you for the journey still to come.

Most important, love yourself and take time to get a clear vision of what you want.  Take time to know yourself as a widow and don’t be to hard on yourself.  Be gentle, you are a great person so give yourself some positive self-love.

Live fully so that you don’t regret what you never learned, loved or tried.  You only go around once so make it count for you.

  1. Find a website covering a topic that interests you, but that you know nothing about.  Go back to it every day and enjoy learning something new.


  1. Think of something you yearn to learn but are afraid to try. Break it down into small steps and tackle it one step at a time.


  1. Even a short walk can boost your mood, creativity and clear your mind so problem solving comes easier.


  1. Don’t take life so seriously. When was the last time you played, enjoyed time with friends or had a good laugh?

Take time to miraculously reconnect to your closest friend – yourself.  I know it’s hard to keep promises to ourselves.  We bend over backwards to keep our word to a friend, an employer, even a stranger.  But we let ourselves down, never taking our own needs seriously.

Make a decision today, to give yourself a break, to say yes to what you want and to remember what matters to you.

  1. Brenda Tuggle
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    i am trying but it is so hard.My husband passed on Jan 2nd of this year. I am still sad most days .Sometimes I feel like he is just away and will be back.I dream about him almost every night. We were married for 39 plus years.I do pray a lot and ask for strength to go on.Please continue to communicate good thoughts and advice. Thank you so much

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