It’s hard to see your future when you are a widow. In theory it should be full of possibilities, but the emptiness you feel won’t go away.
Go with an open mind and try different things out. It may be time to get radical and immerse yourself into an adventure.
Your future shouldn’t be about finding just the right thing to fill the void left by your husband’s death. You don’t need a specific solution, but a new outlook.
For most of your life you may have lived according to one program or another – go to school, get a job, married and kids. Maybe the program for this part of your life needs to be custom designed just for you.
Your future can hold activities and adventures and new people you haven’t yet dreamed of.
There is a saying that when one door closes, another opens. I say that, as a widow, you will see a row of many different doors and you should open them all.
Many widows face situations with no options – and they have little or no help from family, friends or their church/work. When you think you’ve reached the bottom you’ve got to gain strength everywhere you can find it.
Truly grief sucks, you are empty inside and your heart is terminally sick. Death is the end of a dream, your family and future as you knew it. It can feel like the end of your whole life.
Your broken heart has a hole in it that can never be filled. The bleeding will stop, but the hole is still there. The trick is to get up and move. Work on turning your focus outward. Keep a schedule and routine so that your shock and grief don’t become isolating and overwhelming.
Widows can feel completely alone, where no one understands their tremendous pain, rejection and grief. No one understands their great loss, anger and depression.
To get support and encouragement from other widows please request to join “The Sisterhood of Widows – Private Group for Widows” in Facebook. When you request to join please answer all three security questions. This private group of over 3,000 widows, from around the world, understands that a widow’s future is uncertain and that we need support as we create a new future for ourselves.